Diary of a Happy Goth

I’m not typically a series binger, but Sex and the City has had me locked. I love the excitement and optimism of 90s sitcoms, and I want to emulate that hopeful, joyous feeling I get when I watch them throughout my life. Days of freedom, opportunity and enrichment are everywhere in these shows, and I’ve figured out the changes I can make in my life to reflect those.

Going to bars and speaking to new people

I’m setting myself the challenge of speaking to new people when I’m at bars with the girls – not just when I’m completely smashed in a smoking area – but intentionally communicating with new people when I’m looking and feeling amazing. This feels like my dream Sex and the City moment, and the closest I’ll get to their iconic Manhattan cocktail parties. 

Speaking of that, I’m also going to start drinking more martinis. There’s something about a martini glass that is very 90s sitcom.

Getting dressed up for no reason

I want to start looking and feeling fabulous as often as possible, and overdress for every occasion, I would be channeling my inner Samantha Jones (icon). Laying out my outfit for the next day like it’s the night before the year six disco, just grab me a glowstick and I’m good to go. My goal for my final year at university is to eat up as many seminars as I possibly can.

Writing and creativity all the time

Any excuse to write, journal, doodle or colour, I’m taking it. If I can’t be Carrie Bradshaw and write a huge sex column for a living, I’ll write about everything and explore my creativity as a compromise. 

My journal will now be coming everywhere with me.

Social time as a priority

Even just sitting on the sofa and debriefing the day, I’m committed to prioritising social time as far as my social battery will allow. In particular I’m dedicating a huge chunk of my day to bonding with the people who don’t drain my social battery. It’s not as cool as lying back in my silk robe with a fur trim answering my rotary-dial-adorned telephone like its the 90s, but as long as it involves bonding and having girl time, I’m happy.

Parties!!!!!

When did we stop having parties? Beer pong, fancy dress, random conversations in someone’s downstairs toilet. When did it go out of fashion? Since my friends and I started living together in a student house, we’ve been locked in to bringing house party culture back, and they’ve all been a success. 

No breakages, no police calls, no trouble. It doesn’t have to be an American movie disaster, all of our parties have been so lovely, bringing people together with screen-free socialising. I also bought a light-up ice bucket speaker. It would be rude not to share that with the world.

Going on dates and casually dating

I’m equal parts nervous and excited for this one. I’m feeling so ready to start casually but intentionally going on dates, and I feel like it would be really fun, but I am of course worried about getting too invested in someone and ending up disappointed and hurt. I don’t need my own Mr. Big. Or Gary from Geordie Shore. 

I don’t know if I’ll even have time to add a love interest into my life at the moment, I’m prioritising friendship, creativity, work and hobbies, so I think I’ll stick to the casual dates for now.

As many evenings out as I can

“There’s nothing to do in my city”, you might think. I can assure you, you haven’t looked hard enough. There are so many exciting and budget-friendly ways I can spend my evenings in my city, so many that I can’t find the time for them all. 90s sitcom girls always seem to be out and about, exploring what the city has to offer, and that’s exactly what I’m doing to enrich my calendar.