Diary of a Happy Goth

Trust me. The amount of times I’ve had a little lie down and some phone time before my evening plans, and then absolutely dreaded getting back up, is crazy. I’m a committee member for two societies at uni, which means I have at least two evening weekday plans per week. I love my social life and being part of these groups, but sometimes all I fancy after a uni day is being horizontal. 

I’ve started reminding myself that I’m young, free, and mostly void of serious responsibility… go out! Be 20 years old until I’m no longer able to. I’ve got decades of laziness ahead of me. The ability to have so many incredible social circles available to me at uni is a privilege. So, whilst I do listen to my body and rest when it is needed, if I do just feel lazy, here’s what I’m doing to release that funk ahead of my evening plans.

Get a high energy playlist on

I’m sorry, my mopey goth baddies, but your playlist of gloomy Sisters of Mercy bangers needs to be put aside. Find an upbeat, high-vibrational, groovy playlist and press play before you’ve even risen from your coffin. My personal favourites that heighten my energy are Soft Cell’s Sex Dwarf and Christian Death’s Church of No Return. 

There are so many high-vibrational goth club playlists that will do the trick. Even a classic 80s playlist or some nu-metal tracks would awaken the energised creature inside you!

Picture your outfit before you’ve even gotten up

Before you’ve even gotten up, inspire yourself. Picture an outfit that would be perfect for the occasion, imagining which accessories you could add to make yourself feel and look great. For me, if I’m not looking great it’s harder for me to feel great. My aesthetic needs to match my mindset. 

This always works a charm for me, because when I’m visualising looking fabulous, my mood is immediately lifted and I’m reminded how easy it is to feel my best. Sometimes I can’t find the energy to go for a full face of makeup, but that doesn’t matter when I’ve compromised with a gorgeous outfit. It’s not about forcing yourself, it’s about prioritising the things you can find the energy for.

Get bestie support

Utilising the girlies for energy support is one of my favourite parts of a nourishing friendship. Having friends that will hear and help you is invaluable when you’re feeling lazy. I find it the most powerful tool when my friends are energised and operating at a higher frequency than me, because it’s contagious and gives me the motivation to match their wavelength. 

I’m lucky that I live with my besties when I’m at university, so I can annoy them whenever I want. If you can’t relate, receiving that powerful “get the fuck up” text is the next best thing. It’s written plain and simple, and you need to listen!

Flip the mindset

I’m really good at changing my own mindset on things and giving myself a pep talk. It’s easier said than done, but for me, if I’m consumed by a slump of laziness, I am able to talk myself out of it. I remind myself that I’m young, and I am full of energy. I’m going to live a long, exciting life with plenty of time for laziness. 

Speaking to university students here: making friends and going to low-cost events is difficult in the adult world. University and student-life throws social opportunities at us constantly, and it’s up to us whether or not we want to make the most of them, or miss out.